4 THINGS TO DO WHEN RELATIONSHIP BREAKS
-Oba Samuel.
” If the iron be blunt, and he do not whet the edge, then must he put to more
strength: but wisdom is profitable to direct” Eccl.10:10
Many relationship starts with lots of excitement, expectations, dreams and hope .When
two people are in love,they fantasize living together happily ever after,and no one
envisage a break-up.Alas! it happened.
When break-up hits, how do you respond to it?
The article offers practical advice on navigating a relationship break-up. Here are the 4
key takeaways:
1.PRACTICE GRATITUDE :”1 Thessalonians 5:18
“In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”
I know this can be painful but when a relationship breaks, give God thanks .
Thank God for the experience, even if it’s painful. Not all heartbreaks are bad,some are
meant to be for your good as it might prevent future marital disasters.
Though, you may not see any reason to give thanks to God now,but give Him thanks for
the broken relationship because it’s working for your good.
2.LOOK FOR THE GOOD IN IT:To come out of a heartbreak stronger and better,look
out for the good in every situation. No matter what is wrong or how devastating or
traumatic, always look for something good or beneficial in the situation.
Identify the positive aspects of the situation, and recognize that some relationships
aren’t meant to be.
This heartbreak may just be God’s way of saving from marrying a cheater,an abuser
,drunkard, drug addicts ,fraudster or an unbeliever.
3.SEEK FOR VALUABLE LESSONS:Aftermath of a broken relationship,don’t just keep
mourning or weeping. Learn from the experience.
Identify lessons to learn from the break-up, such as personal growth areas or red flags
to watch out for in future relationshipsr.
Identify what you did wrong that may contribute to the failure of the relationship. e.g
premarital sex,cohabitation excessive display of anger,being blind to red flags,lack of
accountability to authority, among others.
Lessons learned here can be of help in building a healthy relationship in your next
attempt to love.Failure to learn valuable lessons may spell doom on your next
relationship.
4.FOCUS ON SOLUTIONS :Having invested your emotions, time and resources into a
relationship that eventually end abruptly, you may be tempted to engage in a blame
game. But instead of blaming, complaining or condemning yourself ,your ex or any other
person, FOCUS ON solutions by asking solution oriented questions, like:”what is the
way out” “what should I do better next time” “what should I do next” “when do I start a
session with a therapist”?
Looking for solution is the right thing to do because it will deliver you from depression
and fast track your healing and wholeness. To everyone passing through the pain of
broken relationships, don’t see it as a rejection on your person but be rest assured that
God is bringing a better fellow your way that will make you thank God for the broken
relationship..
