By Oba Samuel
“A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones.”
Proverbs 14:30 KJV
Marriage is a beautiful institution ordained by God, and as the Bible says, “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour” (Ecclesiastes 4:9).
However, for marriage to remain successful, both spiritual and emotional health are paramount.
Mental health is not often discussed in Christian circles, but it is a key factor in the success of any marriage. A healthy mind is critical for maintaining peace, understanding, and unity between couples. As believers, we must learn to care for our mental well-being as much as we care for our physical health because it affects every aspect of our marital lives.
The Importance of Mental Health in Marriage
“For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he…”
Proverbs 23:7 KJV
Mental health in marriage is not just about avoiding major issues like depression or anxiety, but also about fostering an atmosphere where both partners feel emotionally safe, understood, and supported. A successful marriage thrives when both husband and wife can communicate openly, handle stress in a healthy way, and support each other’s emotional needs. Poor mental health can affect decision-making, communication, and even the intimacy of the relationship.
For example, if one partner is constantly overwhelmed with stress and fails to share it with the other, bitterness and distance can easily creep into the marriage. A man who is burdened by financial pressures and refuses to confide in his wife may isolate himself emotionally, leading her to feel neglected and confused. This is why it’s important that couples talk openly about their mental health challenges, no matter how small.
Mental Health is a Spiritual Matter
Many Christians believe that discussing mental health implies a lack of faith, but this is far from the truth. Scripture reminds us that a sound mind is a gift from God: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV).
To have a “sound mind” means not only being free from confusion and fear but also being mentally and emotionally balanced. Taking care of your mental health is not a sign of weakness but an acknowledgment of the need for God’s peace and grace to permeate every part of your being.
King David is a prime example of a man who faced mental anguish but continually sought God for relief. In Psalm 42:11, he asked himself: “Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God.” David understood that emotional and mental burdens could be lifted through trusting God, but he also acknowledged those feelings and did not deny them.
Practical Steps to Ensure Mental Health in Marriage
1. Open Communication
“Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.”
James 1:19 KJV
Healthy marriages are built on honest and open communication. It is essential for couples to regularly share their thoughts, fears, and challenges. This creates emotional intimacy, which is vital for mental health. A husband should not be afraid to tell his wife when he feels overwhelmed, just as a wife should feel safe expressing her frustrations.
A closed mouth is an open door for misunderstanding and resentment.
2. Cast Your Burdens on the Lord
“Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.”
1 Peter 5:7 KJV
The Bible encourages us to cast our burdens on the Lord, including mental burdens. In marriage, this means both partners should develop a prayer life that addresses their emotional and mental well-being. Couples who pray together and take their concerns to God build a spiritual hedge around their marriage, making it harder for the enemy to sow seeds of mental turmoil.
3. Support Each Other Emotionally
“Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ.”
Galatians 6:2 KJV
In a successful marriage, it is not just enough to love your spouse; you must also bear their emotional burdens. If your spouse is struggling mentally, it’s your responsibility to support them, just as Christ supports us in our weaknesses. Do not be quick to judge or dismiss their struggles. Instead, offer compassion, listen actively, and encourage them with the Word of God and positive and friendly actions
4. Guard Against Burnout
“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
Matthew 11:28 KJV
Marriages often face challenges when one or both spouses become overwhelmed by the demands of life—work, finances, children, and ministry. This can lead to burnout, which affects both mental and physical health.
It is crucial for couples to recognize when they need rest and rejuvenation. Taking time off together, scheduling regular breaks, and simply enjoying one another’s company can do wonders for mental clarity and emotional bonding.
5. Seek Godly Counsel
“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.”
Proverbs 11:14 KJV
Sometimes, issues of mental health in marriage require more than just personal efforts. Seeking godly counsel from a pastor, Christian marriage counselor or Therapist can provide the guidance and support needed to overcome deeper mental and emotional struggles. It is not a sign of failure to seek help; rather, it is wisdom.
Conclusion
A successful marriage is not only about love, respect, and spiritual alignment but also about mental and emotional health. As believers, we must understand that caring for our mental well-being is part of stewarding the gifts God has given us—including our marriages. By following Biblical principles, maintaining open communication, and relying on God’s grace, couples can achieve a marriage that not only survives but thrives mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Your Family & Relationship Coach,
Pst. Oba Samuel
