9 MYSTERIES MARRIED COUPLES MUST KNOW TO TRANSFORM THEIR SEX LIFE
– By Oba Samuel
“If the ax be blunt and one does not whet the edge, then must he put to it more strength; but wisdom is profitable to direct him*Eccl.10:10
There are lots of mysteries about sex among married couples. Ignorance of these mysteries is the bane behind sexual turbulence among many husbands and wives.
Marriage can be frustrating if the bedroom is sick.
Getting yourself acquainted with these mysteries will renew your love-life and bring new momentum into your sexual life.
1. Neglect or misuse of sex can lead to emotional strain, frustration and divorce.
Sex is an integral part of marriage without which marriage may become unpleasant and sad tales.
Although, marriage requires a lot of other components such as trust,fidelity,communication,attention, finance,selflessness, love,among others to work but it is not possible to build a healthy and solid marriage without great sex between husbands and wives.
If your marriage must stand, do not neglect or misuse your Sex life..
‘Strike actions of sex’ will propel the marriage to early grave.
*Do everything possible to make your sex life ‘hot ‘and healthy.
2. Sex must be constant :
Sex is marriage’s super magnet that glue couples together. It’s like prescribed drugs that keep marriage healthy.
Sexual prescriptions states that ,it must be constant between husband and wife, else marriage will move towards constant quarrel, anger demonstration, emotional distancing, frustration ,depression and hatred.
Major crisis in marriage starts from sexual denial or starvation.
Regular sex helps fondness in marriage and keep marriage in a healthy state.
Take sex away and marriage will fall sick no matter how strong your marriage may be.
3.Sexual trigger of a woman is outside the bedroom :
This fact is oblivious to most men in marriage.
A man’s hairy chest and six-packs may be attractive to women but that does not arouse them sexually like when you help with house chores.
When you help your wife in doing domestic works, you have touched her heart deeply and she will be emotionally available for you to touch her pants.
Unfortunately, most married men think house chores is exclusively for wives
. How wrong they are ! That’s why they get turned down most times
. Don’t let your wife worn out with domestic works during the day, else she won’t be available to warm your bed at night.
4. Better sex is seeing it from your spouse’s angle :
To experience great and fun-filled marriage, you need to be selfless. I.e. you need to see sexual requirements from your spouse’s point of view.
For instance, you need to know that most wives need freedom from stress before they can be ‘turned on’ but husbands on the other hands wants sex as a stress reliever.
Wives need to have this understanding about men in their lives and likewise husbands too need to know that the easiest way to enjoy all-involving and passionate sex with their Wives is to take away stress from her.
5. Most people have sexual issues they are not sharing with their spouses :
I have discovered that even though some couples have been married for many years,they’re still having some aspect of their sex lives they are hiding from each other
Some find it difficult and shameful to open up to their spouses about their past molestations, sexual abuse and desired sexual fantasies.
All these hidden secrets will affect sexual responses and enjoyment of your spouse if not openly discussed and properly addressed.
Make it easy for your spouse to open up without ridicule, rejection and name- calling which is the fear that prevent most spouses from opening up .
Where secrets is kept, intimacy is concealed.
What secret are you hiding from your spouse about your sexual past and current desires? Please, open up.
6. Avoid mental polygamy :
The path to sexual fulfillment in marriage is not just about physical monogamy ,mental monogamy is a must too.
Whenever you’re having sexual fantasies about an opposite sex other than your spouse, sex with your spouse will be mechanical, dry and drab for it will be empty of passion.
Examples of mental polygamy is soul-ties with Ex who deflowered a woman or one whose sexual performance is ‘better’ than your spouse
It can also be with someone who possesses certain qualities you want in a dream man/wife.
Until, you overcome mental polygamy, you will never be knitted with your spouse.
Address this now else it will be difficult for you to be emotionally and ‘soulishly’ connected to your spouse.
If you have been battling with this, please speak out and seek help.
7. Foreplay does not start in the bedroom :
Truly ,foreplay takes place in the bedroom but technically, foreplay starts outside the bedroom. How?
Through good morning kiss ,welcome hug, romantic messages, thoughtful gifts/assistance, playfulness and words of affirmation .
All these will set the mood for your spouse and ignite the bedroom fire without stress.
8.Don’t use sex as a weapon:
It is a misuse of sex to use sex as a weapon to fight, punish or manipulate your spouse.
This will defeat the original purpose of sex in marriage and it will backfire later .
Enjoy the fun of sex and don’t let it become a weapon of marriage destruction.
9.Don’t pause your sex life:
It is a big mistake for you to put your sex life on hold because you’re pregnant or nursing a baby .
Pregnancy should not stop your sex life
. In fact, there are lots of advantages in sex during pregnancy which many pregnant women does not know ( I will share this very soon).
Breastfeeding must not stop “sexfeeding”.
Be a balanced wife. Learn how to make yourself indispensable in the life of your spouse when pregnant or nursing a baby.
If you allow motherhood to murder your sex life, you may soon become the senior wife.
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