NEW THINGS MARRIAGE WILL GIVE TO YOU
-Oba Samuel
He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.Eccl.3;11
To many Spinsters and Bachelors, they think marriage is just about wearing a new wedding gown,new suits,tie,bag, rings and new shoes on the wedding day.
Although this is true to some extent but not absolutely true because,some rent wedding gowns,wedding rings and others do borrow their friend’s shoes,wrist watches and bags.
The reason for this write-up is to raise your consciousness about new things marriage will offer you in order to prepare for them.
1.New Title:Prior to wedding,a single brother is referred to as Bachelor,Single and atimes,Master.While the Sister is called Spinster,Miss or Single.
But as soon as you say “I do” you get a new title, which is Mr.and Mrs.Everywhere you go,that’s now your new identity.
To that single Sister/Brother trusting God for a helpmeet, very soon,your title will change in Jesus Name.
2.New Name; There’s an automatic change in your name as soon as you tie the knot.
On the wedding day,you’re first referred to as Groom and Bride,and later;husband and wife.
The new wife will drop her maternal surname to pick her husband’s surname.
In case you are not pleased with the surname of your would-be husband,voice out and iron it out before your solemnization.
Names with negative meaning or that depict idolatry, such as “Fakorede,Ogunnowo,Sangodiji,Shopeyin”among others can be changed before the wedding.
Waiting till after the wedding before raising your concern for such names may not work because the man may not bulge unlike when you’re still in courtship.
I pray for all single sisters reading this teaching, may you not encounter a problem that will make you dump your matrimonial name in Jesus name.
Your new name corroborates the permanence of marriage. So, you need to be happy and passionate about bearing that name before you adopt it.
3.New Signature:To sisters,after adopting a new surname,the next thing is to try creating a new signature out of the new name.
I will advise that you start learning how to sign a new signature before your wedding day so as to gain mastery of it early enough.
4.New house:About 90% of brothers who get married often change their accommodation, from their parents’ house,smaller place or squatter’s joint to a more comfortable house.
So,both newlyweds will move into a new house in a new environment.
In securing a new apartment, it’s not the brother’s sole decision. Ensure you allow your would-be wife to inspect the house and approve it before payment is made.
Please, do your due diligence physically and spiritually before you get an apartment. May you not pay for a demonic coven disguised as a house in Jesus Name
As you move into a new house,may you enjoy new additions in every aspect of your lives in Jesus Name.
5.New Address:Movement into a new house will automatically bequeath a new address to you.
Ensure that you get familiar with your new address very well before the wedding to avoid writing your former address when you need to fill out some documents because many newlyweds make these mistakes.
Also,try and get familiar with the nearest bus stops and shortcuts available in order to ease your movements and description to your visitors.
6.New Parents:Marriage doesn’t just confer on you a new title,it also gives you new parents .
Before the wedding,you have two parents.After, you get four parents i.eYour father and mother as well as the father and mother of your spouse.
This increase in parents gives you multiple options of places to visit and more people to cater for.
To have peace in marriage, merge the two parents together, love them equally ,avoid sentiment but don’t let them rule your marriage. Never allow them to come between you and your spouse.
Any marriage where in-laws rules is a home in ruins.
7.New Church :If as a lady you are planning to marry someone from another church or denomination, you will have to relocate to your husband’s church after the wedding.
If you have an objection to where he worships, address it now before you walk down the aisle.
Please, don’t wait till after the wedding before you voice out ,lest you live in bitterness if your husband refuses to act as you wish.
Fighting over which church to attend after the wedding is a sign that you have shallow discussions in your courtship. Deeper discussion in courtship and pre-marital counselling will set the stage for healthy and glorious marriage. Make use of the two important avenues.
By the Grace of our Lord Jesus Christ,I welcome you into the newness of marriage in Jesus Name.
Your Family & Relationship Coach,
Pst Oba Samuel
E-mail:obasamuel009@gmail.com
