Many wives are suffering in silence because they don’t know who to confide in that will not divulge their secrets.
Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves
Phil.2:3
Everyone love to be treated specially like a VIP (Very Important Person), especially by our spouse.
Unfortunately, the treatment many gives to their spouse is less than VIP treatment and a times very demeaning.
Treating your spouse specially will make him/her feel satisfied. Satisfied people often stay married happily .
If you want your spouse to be happy and satisfied with you in that marriage, treat him/her like a VIP in the following ways:
1. Have the mindset that you’re relating with a VIP
How you talk, act, react and relate with your spouse is a function of the mindset you have towards him/her.
When you have the mindset that you are relating with a VIP, your actions will reflect royalty but if your mind has programmed your spouse as a commoner, you will talk, act, react and serve his food like a commoner. VIP treatment of your spouse begins in the mind.
2. Knowing
Having deep knowledge about your spouse is very key if you must make him/her feel truly important.
You must know the likes and dislikes, also the needs of your husband/wife.
Until you know the needs of your spouse, you may not be able to satisfy him/her.
Get to know the love language of your spouse if you really want to satisfy him/her. These love languages are: word of affirmation, acts of service, Gifts, physical touch and quality time. Identify your spouse language and use them to touch his/her heart positively. Take your spouse as a priority. Love is about meeting needs.
3. Be a fan
VIPs enjoy large fan base. Be his/her own fan, the cheerleader and a motivator. Be the person your spouse can count on any day anytime and anywhere.
In times of challenges in new projects, job, business or exams, you must be there to encourage and motivate him/her to a noble deed.
Believe in your spouse even if nobody believed in him/her.
Motivate him/her to forge ahead regardless of the obstacles.
4. Royal welcome
VIPS enjoy royal welcomes wherever they go.
So, make it your habit of going home cheerfully and welcoming your spouse back home smiling with a ‘missing you’ look and hugs.
Though, you must have had a hectic day but don’t let that determine how you will meet your spouse after the day’s work. Put the day’s challenges behind you and be the light in your house upon arrival.
5. Gifts
Another special way to make your spouse feel like a VIP is to give gifts to him/her.
Give gifts to your spouse when going home and also get special gifts for his/her birthday, wedding anniversaries, yuletide season and other special dates.
What you need to make your spouse feel so special does not necessary have to be expensive at all times but something cute that could communicate love.
Don’t be a stingy lover, true love gives.
6. Be grateful
Do not ignore your spouse’s good deeds and contributions to your life and children.
Be appreciative and always learn to say “thank you”. Nothing is too little to appreciate.
7. Compliment
Give your spouse both open and secret compliments. Tell your husband/wife; “you’re looking beautiful, handsome, and royal”.
This will make him/her feel very special.
8. Avoid Condemnations
Don’t concentrate on your spouse’s weaknesses to avoid the temptation of condemning your spouse secretly and openly.
Do not use derogatory statements against your spouse.
There’s no one without a weakness, make your spouse feel like a VIP by being intentional about focusing on the qualities in your spouse and celebrating him/her.
9. Go Extra mile
Genuine love is not cheap, it’s demanding.
To really make your spouse feel like a VIP, go the extra mile to get things done for him/her even if it’s not convenient.
Don’t just be sacrificial to your job, career, business or ministry, be sacrificial to your spouse also.
Do not make decisions that favours you alone but take decisions that will benefit your spouse.
Remember, one good turn deserves another.
10. ASK
Make your spouse feel like a VIP by asking him/her “what can I do for you ?” “how can I help you” “what can I do to make you feel important?”. Even in the bedroom, ask “how do you want to be touched”, “where do you want me to concentrate on”.
Don’t just ask, take a step to do it with loving and tenderness.
Questions like these will improve your level of affection, friendship and make your intimacy tick.
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