Mistakes you must not make about SEX

To enjoy deeper intimacy and more fulfilling sex-life, you must avoid these under listed mistakes.

If you have been making any of these mistakes, stop now and enjoy the best with your spouse.

1. Not Keeping to your spouse only

The greatest error you can commit against your spouse is to have another sex partner apart from your husband/wife.

This is defilement to your marriage bed and sin against God with grave consequences.

 If you’re having any issue about your sexual life with your spouse, seek help.

Lot’s of people have complained to me that how do I expect them to keep having sex with a spouse who engages in infidelity due to fear of STIs and HIV/AIDS?

Go for STIs and HIV/AIDS tests before you go back to your spouse If you have involved in extramarital affairs because some symptoms can be hidden .

Stop putting the life of your faithful spouse in jeopardy. STOP INFIDELITY TODAY!!!!

2. Wrong definition of Sex

Having a wrong definition of sex is another major mistake to avoid.

Many people erroneously believed that sex is just penetration. No! It’s more than that.

This wrong definition will deprive your spouse from enjoying sexual connection with you and it will put you under unhealthy pressure to ignore important process.

True sexual satisfaction is achieved through gentle concentrations on kissing, fondling and creative foreplay which creates pleasurable experiences.

Your wife’s vagina needs time to be switched on, relaxed and lubricated.

Don’t just penetrate, make sure she is truly ready for it. That’s the key to mutual sexual satisfactions in marriage.

3. The Condom Mistake

So many people in marriage wear condom wrongly and they become vulnerable to what they are trying to guard against .

The best way to use condom is to wear it on an erect penis and avoid any air in it. Ensure a landing space at it’s tip for the the sperm to rest during ejaculation, else it will force it’s pay out.

4. Not checking the Expiry Date

Many do not care to check condoms’ expiry date before using it. 

Always check the pack of the condom for the expiry date before using it. Avoid using dry and stiff condom.

Expired condoms will expose you to unwanted pregnancy, STIs and HIV/AIDS.

5. Having Sex only when you are in the mood

The truth is that sexual urge between husbands and wives varies.

Men are spontaneous while women are tied to their ovulation period, emotions, romantic touches and desire for pregnancies. 

If you based your sexual responses to only when you’re in the mood, you will expose your spouse to sexual temptations, infidelity and there will be hatred, constant quarrels, disconnection and loss of affection. 

Note that sex in marriage is a conscious act. You need to consciously create arousal in your mind and body as a wife even when you’re tired or far from ovulation in order to renew your marital bond and deepen intimacy with your spouse.

Do it when you’re ‘horny’ and when you’re ‘bony’.

6. Overconcentration on sex styles and techniques

Concentrating on different sex styles and techniques does not create bonding or deep intimacy between husbands and wives.

What creates affection and bonding is your friendly disposition towards your spouse. 

Are you friendly with your spouse or hostile?  Do you always engage in actions or speak insulting words that that may your spouse’s emotions? .

No matter how vast you are on sexual styles, you will always meet with unresponsive spouse if you are harsh, violent, stingy or inhuman.

Prolonged honeymoons is propelled by friendship.

If sex is a point of conflict in your marriage, check your actions.

Husbands, mind your words and actions lest it knocks you out of her honeypot.

7. Withdrawal methods as birth control

To some who hates condom and other birth control methods, who think removing the penis from the vagina shortly before ejaculation, will prevent pregnancy, are playing a risky game.

This is so because sperm can still sneak into the vagina through the seminal fluid that comes before ejaculation. 

In fact, sexual sensation and pleasure can make you to forget when to pull-out.

8. Having anal sex as a birth control

Anal sex can prevent you from getting pregnant but it is not completely impossible because just a drop of sperm near the vagina can find its way into it and fertilize the egg.

Please, note that anal sex is not a healthy sex. I wrote the pros and cons in my bestseller – Enjoying The Benefits of Marriage.

9. Vagina

Trying to prevent pregnancy by cleaning the vagina with chemical based solution after sex.

This can not prevent pregnancy, it will expose your vagina to infection that may affect your uterus and fallopian tubes.

Please, visit the hospital for the best birth control method that suits your system.

Keep your bedroom alive by constantly improving your sex life.

Avoid the above mistakes and maintain romantic flow in your marriage. 

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