“live joyfully with the wife of your youth”
Eccl.9:9
One of the major instructions God gave to Couples is the duty to make each other joyful.
From January to December, due to the fragile nature of marriage, we have offended
ourselves as husbands and wives.
Many have ceased to be friends and lovers. But we can’t afford to step into the new
year hurting each other, unhappy or sorrowful.
So, let’s work to make our spouses joyful in order to have a truly merry Christmas.
How?
Heal old wounds – apologize for past mistakes
There’s something special about the yuletide season so, let’s make good use of it to pull down the middle wall of partition and rebuild our marriages.
There’re many unresolved issues, bottled-up anger, bitterness and hurt feelings that has led to emotional disconnection, cold war, malice, isolation, separation or divorce.
Don’t let this accompany you to the new year. Be a bridge builder, make the move
towards reconciliation. Apologize to each other and make peace. Where both of you
can’t resolve the issue, see your pastor, mentor or counsellor for assistance.
Remember, “it is better to jaw-jaw than to war-war”.
Sincere Gratitude
Sincere gratitude is a sadness and bitterness eraser. It also brings joy and lighten the atmosphere.
To truly make your spouse joyful and make your marriage healthy, show gratitude to your spouse for the roles he/she has played in your life in this passing year.
If you can delete your entitlement mentality and think deeply, you will realize that you owed your spouse thanks. Show gratitude to your spouse loudly in the presence of your children, family and friends.
You have criticized and condemned your spouse enough, it’s time to praise him/her.
Get gifts
Thoughtful gifts can definitely change the mood of your spouse. Many married people often make the mistake of buying Christmas gifts for their children without getting anything for their spouse. This is very wrong.
Get something special for your spouse that will make him/her relishes the season. Also, get gifts for peoples who have been a blessing to you ;no matter how small it may be. Remember, Christmas is not about receiving, it is about giving.
Hangout Together
At the end of this yuletide season, it may be difficult to have time just for the two of you.
Although, it’s good to visit family and friends but create time just for the two of you so as to rekindle your love, reconnect, play together ,gist and renew your friendships. You can go to Carol together, go to beach or resort centre together, this is joyful and soul lifting. Many wives have been looking forward to a day like this but many husbands were too busy.
To achieve this, you must get out of your house, else cooking and entertainment of visitors will deprive your wife the fun.
